Receiving less than desirable news is something no one enjoys or looks forward to, but it gets worse when you tell someone about it. Often times, you do so in an effort to receive support and encouragement in a trying time. However, what happened to me this week was that I became so frustrated and full of anxiety trying to explain the situation. The person didn’t seem to understand because, quite honestly, they can’t. It’s female related, and well, I was talking to a man!
They pressed for details, and the more I tried to explain, the more I felt invalidated with how they were making light of the situation. Why? Because it’s not THEM going through anything. That’s why.
Then the fear kicked in that I was being so misunderstood. I finally told him that I could not continue the conversation and felt no need to discuss the matter with him further. What I’d like them to do is consider that one day it just might be THEM with issues below the belt, and they’d want someone supporting them, not making things more difficult in an already trying time!
People, hear me. When someone comes to you with a concern, LISTEN AND BE THERE! Comfort, support, encourage. While I understand questions are asked in an effort to gather information and get a clear understanding of what is taking place, making light of something serious makes it worse! That’s like telling a woman that is upset to just calm down. Yea, try that, men folk, and let me know how that works out for you! Chances are, you will be handed your head!
It was reaffirmed, yet again, why I keep the majority of my personal business to myself.
Be careful who you tell your business to because a lot of people are just plain nosey. Others make light of the situation, when it is NOT a laughing matter. Rarely, you will find people who truly do want to be there to love, support, and encourage you when you’re going through a hard time. Treasure those people!