Everyone needs to have a person they can talk to when times are rough. The world can seem like such a lonely place without this.
Do you have that in your life? The one person you know you can turn to about anything and everything. The one that will not sit in judgement of you but will lend a helping hand if needed. The one that will offer advice even if you failed to take their well-meaning advice in the past.
Here’s the thing, though. They have to keep things confidential. They can’t spill the beans when they get mad at you. OR the absolute worst thing – use what you’ve confided in them against you later! They simply cannot, under any circumstances, use what you’ve told them against you later during an argument. That’s the lowest of low! And, it feels like the ultimate betrayal! If you’ve ever had that happen to you, it stings! You sit there feeling their assaults with each word they launch at you, wondering who that person is that is doing this! Surely not the one you thought you could trust and that said they love you and have your best interest at heart!
You have to be wise about who you trust these days and how much of your life you share with them. If you’re certain the friendship will stand the test of time, then share away. However, be more reserved when you talk to someone that you really don’t know that much about. That’s common sense, right? But, a lot of people are in such desperate need to talk to someone – anyone – that they end up pouring their heart and soul out to someone unworthy of such an honor.
When someone comes to you to talk about what is bothering them, be the person you’d want to confide it. Be the person that will keep things to themselves. Honor the individual that trusts you so much to bare their soul to you. Appreciate that they could talk to anyone about what is happening in their lives, yet they’ve chosen you! Respect them enough not to share their business with anyone else and certainly never throw it back up in their faces later.
And here’s the biggest thing – BE THERE for them.
I’ve gone to friends in the past to talk about something I was going through just to come away feeling as if I “bothered” them with my stuff. That is the biggest insult when you trust someone to confide in them, and they give the impression that they’d rather not be involved or would prefer not to be “that person” who will be there for you in your time of need.