A friend loves at all times. It’s in the bible, and we know we are to act according to God’s word.
Having any type of friendship comes with give and take. When a friendship gets to the point where one party is always giving and the other party is always taking, then we have a problem. When this happens, we can still love them, but we can choose to do so from afar.
I’ve come to accept that people are not going to be there for me in the ways that I am there for them. It’s been proven time and time again with this one friendship in particular. Therefore, I have come to have no expectations here with them at all. None. I know they will always fail me. I realize they will never be there for me in my time of need, yet they expect me to be there for them. And, I have. Through many, many years, actually. But, I can no longer be the glue that holds this friendship together. OR the person that accepts less than I deserve from a friendship. OR the rock they lean on in troubled times just for me to be left all alone in my time of need. This one sided friendship has to go.
So this is me, drawing a line in the sand.
I accept where they are and the type of person they choose to be. I say “choose” because I realize it IS a choice they make time and time again.
I am done carrying this friendship that I have carried for 20 years.
I acknowledge the toxic friendship. I accept what has come to pass. And I am getting off of this one sided friendship train TODAY.
I still love the person, and it is okay for me to put up boundaries that should have been put in place a long time ago. It’s called taking care of ME!