History is repeating itself again. Sadly, after all I have done for my niece, she has chosen not to allow me to see her son. Why? Because she wronged ME … and this is her grudge holding revenge against me, from what I have been told.
I’ve gone above and beyond for her, had showers for her, gave them a bunch of things for the baby, fixed their tire when they could have had a bad accident driving around like that, given them money, let them stay with me despite the drama they brought with them …
But the latest has to do with clear disrespect of my home. Having her friends come over while I was at work to find a locked gate did not stop them … oh no, instead, she pulled on the gate until the lock broke to allow her friends to slip through to go onto my property. This is considered trespassing, breaking an entering, and damaging property, all of which could land them in jail.
Lies were told from my niece where she blamed her friends for this … when I had a witness in the house and camera proof as well that she did it.
I knew that very day when I spoke to her that she was guilty. I heard it in her voice on the phone, and I saw it on her face in person when I arrived at the house shortly thereafter. She was guilty but did not want to admit it, so she instead said maybe she needed to go back to her grandma’s house. So I helped her pack! As I was helping her upstairs pack up her belongings, she started crying saying, “I feel like this is all my fault …” I asked her how. She would only respond, “Because I keep messing things up … with my grandma and now with you.” (Side note: She just yelled at her 80-something year old grandmother prior to coming to my house over a disagreement they were having. How do I know? Because my daughter and I both HEARD her!) This was her opportunity to tell me and be honest with me about what happened. Yet, she did not come clean.
This whole situation could have been avoided had she just waited until I was home to have her friends come over. Being that I work so close to home, I would have been there in no time had she just waited for me to arrive. Breaking my gate to sneak her friends in was so very wrong! Yet, I am being punished for it by her taking the baby from me.
This, sadly, is no surprise to me, as her own father used her as a child in this way as well. What is sad is when you are a good person, this does not guarantee that people will be good to you. No, they use you, abuse you, and then tell lies to you and about you. It did not have to be this way at all. She chose this path, and I must let her go.
In the still, quiet moments when she’s alone with her thoughts, this will come to the forefront of her mind. No matter how she tries to justify this with her friends and family, she will realize that she did herself a disservice by cutting me out of her and her baby’s lives. She knows in her heart that I was good to them, so very good to them … and I would have gone above and beyond to help ensure they had a good future. She knows in her heart that she’s wrong for this, and at some point, this will haunt her. It will bother her – maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow – but she will think of this and be filled with sorrow that she allowed this wedge to be placed between us due to HER being at fault in this situation and not admitting her part in this.
That is what I am at this point. Completely and totally done with that side of the “family.” My sister married into this family, and long after she has passed away, we’re still dealing with the drama they bring.
There will be no more money given out to help them when they are short on money for gas, car payments, etc. There will be no more free meals on us as they had gotten used to when they would come around. This past Christmas I even had a separate Christmas tree in my house loaded with presents just for my niece, her boyfriend, and their baby that was on the way. I spent a LOT of money on them. But that ends today.
It is sad when people take advantage of you, lie to you and about you, and make you out to be the bad guy after ALL you have done for them.
Why couldn’t she have admitted guilt and vowed to never do this again where she disrespected my home and damaged my property? Instead of telling lie upon lie upon lie as she is known to do (this was just recently told to me about her character) … and taking the baby from me … why couldn’t she have owned up to what she did so we could put it all behind us?
Yet she’s an “adult” behaving in this manner.
That is what is wrong with the world today – so called “adults” acting anything BUT in an adult manner! They need to understand that there are consequences for their actions. Me helping her pack up her belongings when she said she needed to go back to her grandmother’s house is a very real consequence she faced. I saw a lot of things when she was at my house that let me know she did not deserve to be there. I opened my home to her on several occasions for this to happen? Yet she had the nerve to practically beg me on several occasions to come live with me.
It is over.
The using, the taking advantage … all of it. I saw through her lies before I ever had the proof in front of me. I thought the bond between us and how close we had gotten was a lot stronger than what it actually was. I had high hopes that we could make up for lost time, but I was wrong. Until she wants to do better in life, I cannot help her. No one will be able to help someone that is unwilling to help themselves. She has a baby, and I wanted to show them a better life FOR that baby … now this has happened.
To use a baby in this fashion is completely and totally wrong no matter what lies they tell in order to make themselves feel justified in this. They will account for their actions one day to God above.
I bid you all farewell. I will pray for that precious little baby boy because his future will not be safe and secure in this dysfunctional environment they live in.