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Light in the Darkness Surrounded by Love with Hope for those in need.

Shirley

Shirley is the proud mother of two beautiful young ladies. She enjoys spending time with them on their ranch in the deep South with their three paint horses. Always looking for an adventure, she looks forward to hikes in the mountains chasing waterfalls, or scouring the coast for beautiful lighthouses! Shirley writes to encourage others and often times shares things that motivate and inspire her. She believes in living life to the fullest because no one is promised the gift of another day. Join her as we honor our bodies, minds, hearts, souls, and our Almighty Creator, God above!

18 Comments

  1. Logan
    July 10, 2014 @ 9:42 am

    Sometimes it is best for people to just listen. I’m sorry your friend hurt you even more when they were trying to help. Not everyone is good with words of affirmation, I guess. I am sending prayers your way. I’m sorry you are dealing with a tough situation.

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    • Shirley
      July 10, 2014 @ 3:28 pm

      Logan, thank you for your sweet words. I appreciate them more than you know.

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  2. tara pittman
    July 10, 2014 @ 11:44 am

    This is great advice on how to be a friend. You cant change people but you can change how you react to them

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    • Shirley
      July 10, 2014 @ 3:27 pm

      I love that saying, Tara, and it is oh so true!

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  3. Jamie
    July 10, 2014 @ 12:19 pm

    I always try and rely on Philippians 4:8 when I’m thinking things. You have to guard your mouth before you speak and make sure that it will glorify and not bring down anyone. Love this post!

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    • Shirley
      July 10, 2014 @ 3:26 pm

      Blessings to you, Jamie! I wish more would cling to this verse before offering any words, especially in a situation that is already painful for the person going through it.

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  4. Deb Wolf
    July 10, 2014 @ 12:33 pm

    Shirley, God sent you to CMB for His purposes this morning. I needed this. You encouraged me to write my story to help others, and I believe God wants me to share more than I have in the past. My struggle is our story isn’t ours alone and like you because of privacy issues I want to be very careful with my words.

    Your advice here is spot on. Most hurting hearts need someone to listen, nurture, and help them work through the circumstances themselves. Which mostly happens through gently asked questions not answers.

    Many blessings to you. I look forward to getting to know you better and pray God comforts your hurting heart.

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    • Shirley
      July 10, 2014 @ 3:26 pm

      Aww, bless you, Deb! I so enjoyed visiting your site today, and I feel that God did lead me to you this morning. He knew I needed to read your words and help support you, and you have helped more than you know by the kind, heartfelt words you have shared with me today. Thank you from my heart. I do look forward to your story. I know it will bless many hearts. ((hugs))

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  5. Laura (Lauras Little House Tips)
    July 10, 2014 @ 12:42 pm

    I feel for your struggle. I wish I had words to fix it but only you can. I found it odd you used “repeat offender” Not judging but that does indicate in your mind somewhere it will repeat. Our hearts rarely match up with our heads and while I have not walked a mile in your shoes. Purely an outsider. You have to understand that no one wants to see another hurt. I’ve had struggles also but have had to look outside of the issue and remember that I am a Mother and what advice would I give my own girls on this particular life struggle. Then I do what I would tell them. Is it easy no but being true to ones ones words …Well that is what it is about to me. People come and they go but your the only one that looks back at you in the mirror. Can you live with that?

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    • Shirley
      July 10, 2014 @ 3:23 pm

      I do understand your point, Laura. My friend’s words were to describe the person as a “repeat offender.” I should have clarified that. It is my sincere hope that this behavior does not repeat itself this time. As I said in the post, I do believe that people can change if they want to … it has taken an extreme situation for them to want to change, but this time I believe they truly do and will.

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  6. LifeAsAConvert
    July 10, 2014 @ 12:48 pm

    True friends would use their words to encourage you and not tear you down. Encouragement can be found even in the most negative situations

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    • Shirley
      July 10, 2014 @ 3:21 pm

      I agree! There is always a way to encourage and support someone!

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  7. Christina
    July 10, 2014 @ 12:58 pm

    Great advice. I’d venture to say that MOST of the time people just want a listening ear. The best change comes from within and not from some outside party badgering with advice. Advice, in my experience, usually does more harm than good, AND some lessons just need to be lived instead of told.

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    • Shirley
      July 10, 2014 @ 3:20 pm

      Very true, Christina. Some times all that is needed is a listening ear.

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  8. Ellen Christian
    July 10, 2014 @ 6:03 pm

    What a wonderful post. It’s definitely not an easy thing to go through at all.

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  9. Jay @ Life of Creed
    July 10, 2014 @ 10:40 pm

    You share great advice in this post. Friends are suppose to lift each other up no matter the situation, not bring them down. Just know that if whatever the situation, God would not be putting it in front of you if you could not handle it. It may be that you are the one person that can help the repeat offender and help them with changing.

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    • Shirley
      July 10, 2014 @ 11:49 pm

      Jay, thank you for this. My heart so wants to help this individual. It is because of the great love that I have in my heart … I truly believe in this person! Thank you so much for what you wrote!

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