Yesterday was “The Day of Love,” ie: Valentine’s Day. I purposely chose not to write on that particular day but to enjoy seeing the display of love that surrounded me. Not that I was anticipating anything at all, because I am not that type of person, but because I get such great joy of seeing those around me happy and in love as well.
Today I want to talk about attitudes, love, and words unspoken.
One of the features I adore on Facebook is the “memories” that pop up. This is a daily reminder of what happened on that particular day, however many years ago, and what you posted on your timeline. Today, two quotes popped up that I shared a few years apart.
The greatest discovery of my generation
is that human beings can alter their lives
by altering their attitudes of mind.
This particular quote should have sort-of an awakening effect when you read it and let it sink in. Think about it. YOU can alter your entire life by simply altering your attitude! You can make up your mind to stop looking at things from a negative perspective. Likewise, you can stop choosing to speak negatively about yourself and others as well. Why not be a more enjoyable person to be around instead of wallowing in hatefulness.
Here’s an example. A wife of one of my coworkers is obsessed with me, referring to me as “that” woman. He and I are both married with children, so why should I be the object of her remarks? Why am I the focus? He and I are forced to work together due to the very nature of our jobs. Yet, shortly after I started working here in 2016, I received a text message from her. Little does she realize, this is unlawful use of a cell phone. When you have not had any business texting someone before, yet do so for something of this nature, it’s illegal. Most people do not realize this and think their actions are harmless. We found out from our local sheriff’s department three years ago when my daughter was being hounded by such text messages that it is, in fact, illegal activity. That matter was addressed by the chief, which is where this is headed should I receive any more messages from this jealous wife.
My thing is this: if there’s trouble in paradise, why doesn’t she shift her focus and energy on bettering herself and making sure she’s the best wife she can possibly be. IF she would concern herself more with that, she wouldn’t need to think twice about little ole me. Why am I a threat to her? Perhaps she takes her husband for granted, mistreated him or neglects him. I can only imagine because why else would the green-eyed monster be on her shoulder?
There is one person at work that I do pick on a lot, only because they started picking on me last May. Up until then, I was quiet, shy, and reserved. But it was ON when they started up with me! Now, they probably wish I’d go back to that, but we’ve turned into the best of office buddies. It makes the day go by faster with laughter in the office, and this guy is single so I’m not a threat to anyone in his situation! It’s just innocent fun. (Psst. I’m old enough to be his mother!)
Changing the subject now, I’d like to focus on the spirit of love. This quote speaks volumes.
The moments when you have truly lived
are the moments when you have done things
in the spirit of love.
When was the last time you did something for someone out of the spirit of love? Honestly not thinking of anything you stand to gain, but going out of your way to let someone know you appreciate them? I was on the receiving end of such kindness this week, and I walked around with a silly grin on my face for days. DAYS!! It doesn’t have to be something grande or extravagant, nothing expensive even. Just knowing that someone took time out of their day to remember me in some way makes my heart sing.
Last but not least, words unspoken. What’s in your heart? Better yet, have you spoken those words to the one that truly needs to hear it? This is something a lot of people have a hard time with. Whether ego gets in the way, or they are just too bashful to admit their feelings, it’s incredibly sad when things need to be said and yet there’s silence.
Crickets chirping in the distance …
Please don’t allow this to happen. I’ve seen it happen firsthand, and the person that didn’t say how they felt ended up with terrible regret.
Speak now, while the person can hear the words your heart is longing to say!
That is all for today. Carry on, dear ones!