Reach
The prompt word has been posted for tonight for this edition of Five Minute Friday. It is: Reach.
And now we begin:
I have reached a point in my life where I no longer worry about the opinions others may have of me. When once it used to bother me when I would hear people whispering about me and giving me those up and down looks, now I just take a deep breath in and give it to God. I realize that I am not in control of any one else. I am only in control of myself and my actions. If you haven’t reached this point yet, give it time. As you grow older, things of this sort will not matter as much any more. You won’t sit up at night losing sleep over this like you once did. You won’t try to go out of your way to reach this person, to change their opinion of you, to make things better like before. You will just simply pray for them and hand it all to God to work out. It used to bug me when someone didn’t like me before. I wanted everyone to like me. The reality of it is that not every one will. I like me and God likes me, and that, my dear friends, is enough!
STOP!
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Attention To Details
Today we are going to talk about your listening skills. Do you think you are a good listener? Are you sure that you pay attention to details in a conversation? Or, do you sit there as the person is talking thinking of all of the things that you will say the moment they stop talking? How about this. Have you been known to interrupt a person often as they are speaking to be sure that your voice is heard in the conversation? Do you interject when you really should be listening silently and actively paying attention to every single thing they are saying?
If we are honest with ourselves, we can be rude creatures. We just have to get our two cents in, so we interrupt or talk over people. Then we rationalize that what we said just had to be said at that very moment to make an impact. Well, what happened to politely listening, then speaking at the end when you’re sure the other person has finished speaking?
I’m not calling any one out on this, just asking you to be more aware the next time you’re engaged in a conversation with someone. I have been guilty of this very same thing, so please know, I am no saint when it comes to this. I do strive to be a better listener. I even fold my hands in my lap as I wait patiently for my turn to speak. This helps me be aware of my need to remain silent until the appropriate time to speak.
How are you when it comes to details? Can you remember what someone said after the conversation is over, or do you really halfheartedly listen as they are speaking? I have also been guilty of this as well. Again, it is something that I am working on to give the individuals my undivided attention. They deserve this, and I would want the same when I am the one that is speaking.
Then this one takes the cake. How about a person that listens attentively, pays attention to details, waits patiently until you are finished speaking before they give their thoughts on the subject matter, AND remembers what you’ve said not just immediately after the conversation but stores this information in their head for later use? Now THAT is impressive. I know a person just like this. He is the shy, quiet type. He sits quietly when in a crowd of people, rarely saying anything much at all, just soaking it all in. He would rather be in the background instead of in the spotlight, although he’s no stranger to the spotlight either when it’s appropriate. He is aware of everything that is going on, although some times people think he has tuned out somewhat. He is storing up the information to pull out of his brain bank for special occasions like holidays or birthdays. Then there’s the “just because” gifts that he gives from that stash of important data filed away.
This individual just recently called me asking if I would do him a favor. He said he needed me to check out something for him, and possibly do a blog post on the place he was sending me. I gathered my pen and paper, preparing to write down the address for the location he wanted me to go to for my assignment. As my pen was still in motion writing down the address, he tells me the name of the place: The Jim Booth Art Gallery. My ears perked up immediately. Then he tells me that my assignment is actually to pick up my birthday present from this location. Oh my gosh! Imagine my excitement! I have never been to this art gallery before! Now not only do I get to tour the gallery and soak in all of the beauty before me, but I get to take a beautiful picture home with me!!
Now as good as the above was, is, and sounds, here is the best part. He remembered that I had commented on this particular piece once before. I had almost forgotten that until he asked if I remembered the picture. I had to stop and think for a second, then it occurred to me. I HAD remarked about how pretty I thought that picture was, never imagining in a million years that I would own one and have it hanging up in my living room! He made all of that happen … and he gave me a wonderful birthday present … all because he was paying attention to details when we were having a conversation together.
Who is this individual I speak of? None other than our “behind the scenes” computer guru who posts his weekly column for We Care Wednesdays: Gregory C. Johnson, aka The Quiet Computer Guy!
What is the picture that I am absolutely thrilled to have on display in my home? Look no further than the below … in all of it’s beauty and wonder … Jim Booth’s painting of the Morris Island Lighthouse as it once stood complete with the home of the lighthouse keeper! Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you … my most favorite lighthouse of all:
Let’s all take notes from Mr. Johnson, shall we? Thank you, my dear friend, from the very bottom of my heart for always listening attentively and paying attention to details, even though I have been known to ramble a lot and get lost in what I am saying along the way. Thank you for surprising me with an early birthday present as grand as this and for ALL of the many “care packages” you have sent throughout the 17 years (as of this writing) that I have been blessed to call you my friend. Whether you know it or not, you are family. And, I see I am going to have to watch what I say around you in the future. 🙂
We Care Wednesday: Without Spoken Words
Sometimes cleaning the house can turn into the discovery of forgotten treasures. This past weekend buried in a stack of books I was dusting I found the following card I purchased years ago:
I love card shopping. A good card is a great way to send a message to someone. With all the advancement in technology, one could say that greeting cards are a thing of the past. I hope that never happens as I believe there is a special connection when you send something to someone that they can touch. It is a way to convey our thoughts without spoken words. Needless to say, the card was never given to the intended recipient. It was not sent because I changed my mind or my feelings changed but the situation itself never developed to where I felt I could share this with the intended person and I realized it never would.
As I stood looking at the card and reading the message I started to think about the message and how it could be interpreted in different ways. Of course, the initial intention of the message is to convey the love you have for another which was the reason I purchased the card. Let’s look at the message again:
“To be with you and have your love… is all I ask of life”
Is this not what we as children want from our parents? In our hearts is this not what we want from our relationship with God? Without spoken words, God has given us His love and understanding if we will open our hearts to let Him in. We can do the same for those important to us in our lives. Actions, without spoken words, can convey our feelings much more so than verbalizing our feelings. Even the smallest gesture can make a gigantic impact on someone without you having to say anything.
