Light, Love, Hope

Light in the Darkness Surrounded by Love with Hope for those in need.

You Don’t Get To Decide

A misunderstanding occurred over the weekend via text, of all things.  Two friends were talking back and forth when one took something the wrong way.  You’re at a true disadvantage when you can’t hear the person’s tone of voice or see their facial expressions.  It makes it much harder to communicate effectively at times.

Something light-hearted and teasing was sent, but it was not received as such.  The person took offense, spouted off, and in that instance, feelings were hurt.  A sting was felt inside one’s heart.  Tears began to sting their eyes, but they blinked them back so as not to allow it to get the best of them.

When they finally were able to express themselves, they admitted they were a little bit hurt.  The response almost written back immediately was, “I did nothing to hurt you …”

And they froze.

Here’s the thing.  You don’t get to decide whether you did something or not to hurt someone’s feelings.  If THEY felt hurt by something you said or did, that is their perception.  Like it or not, their perception becomes their reality!

And silence fell between them.

I learned a long time ago that feelings aren’t right or wrong, they just ARE.

I’ve been told I’m a highly sensitive person, as if that was a flaw in my personality.  It’s a good thing I don’t view it that way, though.  I’m anything but flawed!  Just because I might feel deeper than most or might be struck by something that wouldn’t bother another person, that does not make me weak or flawed in any stretch of the imagination.

I am me, and I will not apologize for that.  You shouldn’t either!

Feeling as deep as I do at times allows for me to show compassion to others. Compassion is something that is lacking in this world today, so I’m proud of my feelings and ability to make sure people know that they matter in this world.

That you do get to decide.  You choose how you want to be with the world.  You have a say in how you want to interact with people.  But you do not get to decide whether someone is offended or hurt by something you said or did.  It doesn’t work that way … at … all.

You might be trying to get the responsibility off of your shoulders so you won’t feel bad.  That’s great – but I’m woman enough to own my feelings and emotions.  I recognize them, allow them to be for the moment, but I will not be controlled by them.  I am able to be rational about things and push my feelings aside to work.  But deny my feelings so that someone else feels better?  I will not!  And neither should you!

 

 

Transformation

My father worked for the same company for 41 years.  When he retired in 2012, we worried that he would feel as if he lost his identity.  The company had become a part of who he was for all of those years.  And then, he retired.

Prior to his retirement, however, my husband and I sought to make one of his dreams come true.  You see, tucked away in one of his sheds for 30 years was a 1957 Chevy Bel-air two door hard top.  It didn’t seem to have much life in it when looking at the rust that started showing through along with the chipped black paint, but we knew it had great potential.   My dad struggled with whether to sell it several times through the years, but each time he held on to the dream of “one day” fixing it up.  As the years rolled by, he resolved himself to just look out at what once was and what might not ever be again as he didn’t feel he had the money necessary to restore it.  That’s where my husband and I came in.  We set out on a mission to bring this classic back to life.

My dad was extremely humbled by our offer, and we could tell it touched a place deep within his soul at the mere thought that his dream was about to become a reality.  I’ll never forget the day we watched as the rollback scooped my dad’s car up and started down the driveway. We were excited of what was to be!

Fast forward two years, and this once black, often used as a drag car on dirt roads around our house, “rust bucket” was transformed into a candy apple red beauty with sparkling chrome!  My dad’s face lit up like a kid in a candy store when he first saw his “old hunk of junk,” as my mom used to call it.  He was so nervous to get behind the wheel because he didn’t want anything to happen to his baby!  I was there snapping pictures and proud to be a part of that day!  When he drove away, he goosed it and snatched second gear so the tires would squeal, just like a little boy playing with his new toy!  I laughed and carried that giddy schoolgirl feeling with me all day!

Shortly thereafter, my dad and I learned of a classic car club in town.  We were invited to a few meetings, and then our family joined the club.   He’s entered several car shows and received trophies and plaques!  After several years of being active in the club, my dad was voted in as the president of the Edisto Cruisers!  Now not only did his dream become a reality, but it far exceeded his expectations!  He’s living his dream and then some!

AND … he drove this beauty on his last day of work when he retired!  It was also at his retirement party that we threw for him, as well.

My dad has really come out of his shell since joining and putting himself out there with this car club.  When once he would shy away from others and sit in a corner to himself, (and we’d join him so he wouldn’t be alone), he has since become more outgoing.  In his current role as President, it has forced him out of his comfort zone, which is not always a bad thing at all.   While he’s not really a people person, he is more social than he has ever been before.  Public speaking might not be his heart’s desire, but he does a good job of leading the monthly meetings.  It seems my dad has had a transformation in all of this, too!

As my dad has gotten older, and after losing several loved ones, he’s become more spiritual as well.  I’ve purposely chosen not to say “religious,” as what he has is deeper than that.  He reads his bible and prays genuine heartfelt prayers to our Heavenly Father.  He prays with passion and conviction, whether on his knees beside his bed at night or before the meal at the monthly car club meetings.  I’m proud of him finding his voice and not being bashful with his prayers, especially.  He’s often called on to pray at our house before the meals as well.  I love that man!  And yes, I’ve always been a daddy’s girl.  I love my mama, don’t get me wrong.  But there’s just a special connection between my father and I.

When once we worried about my dad upon his retirement, we’ve seen him flourish in his new role.  We are so proud of him and thankful that he has a passion for classic cars, but most of all, he’s enjoying sporting around in ‘Ole Red after all these years.

Ice Dragon: Legend of The Blue Daises

Doesn’t that have a nice ring to it?  Ice Dragon:  Legend of The Blue Daises

I’m so excited to introduce you to this inspirational animated feature that will *ONLY* be in theaters for TWO nights:   March 24, 2018 & March 26, 2018.

Canadian director and producer, Bruce Stacey, has put together a short story of his faith-based adventure.  This film includes voice talents by Rheal Rees, Justin Debe, and Bill Bray.

Not only will you be seeing this feature, but you will also enjoy an original live-action short film with an exclusive music video.

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I’m excited to take my daughter to see this movie.  We love spending time together shopping, eating out, going to the mall, and watching movies!  This will be perfect for a “Girl’s Day!”  (Sorry Dad!)

Visit FathomEvents.com to find a theater near you and to purchase tickets!

Who knows, maybe we’ll see you at the movies!

 

 

 

 

 

 

shirley

Light, Love, Hope

Shirley is the proud mother of two beautiful young ladies. She enjoys spending time with them on their ranch in the deep South with their three paint horses. Always looking for an adventure, she looks forward to hikes in the mountains chasing waterfalls, or scouring the coast for beautiful lighthouses! Shirley writes to encourage others and often times shares things that motivate and inspire her. She believes in living life to the fullest because no one is promised the gift of another day. Join her as we honor our bodies, minds, hearts, souls, and our Almighty Creator, God above!