Each of us, throughout our lifetimes, will experience some sort of tragedy. Though the years may pass, the memories and the pain of those events linger on with us; sometimes it can be felt as strong now as it was back then. There is no getting past the influence of this type of major life event. Many people live with those feelings inside and never share the hurt and pain that comes back during the anniversary of that time.
I have heard many people tell others to just get over it. Bury those feelings. What is past is past. I find that to be rather inconsiderate and a bit cruel. Instead of “trying” to help someone get through an emotionally difficult time should we not try to help them by sharing their pain?
Most people I know have no idea what to say to someone during a time like this. What they don’t realize is that the best thing they can do is to say nothing, but do something. Be there for those you know that are hurting. Spend a little time with them. Tell them you are thinking of them. Let them know that you share their pain and you will be there for them if they need support. Give them a hug. Let them decide what they need from you to help them through those dark times. Just be there for them.
Be someone’s angel.