I haven’t written in a while because honestly … life is hard right now.
I have written in the past to bring awareness to mental health issues because I understand the importance of this and how the topic needs to be in the forefronts of everyone’s minds. Having encountered people in my path throughout the years has really made me understand how mental illnesses impact people often in very negative ways. It wreaks havoc on lives, if I am completely honest! Whether I’ve come to know them through my work at the alcohol and drug commission or other various positions I’ve held through the years, or whether they’ve been friends or family members … it is apparent that more attention needs to be brought to this topic so that people can seek HELP!
There is NO SHAME in getting the help you need.
NO SHAME TO YOUR MENTAL HEALTH GAME!
Please understand that!
If your life is in a whirlwind the majority of the time, and you can’t quite put your finger on what is wrong – SEEK HELP. There are counselors available to help you talk through your feelings and figure out what changes need to be made in your life so that you find peace within yourself. I have found that if you are unhappy with yourself on the inside, it will all come spewing out around people. Mainly, it is the ones you proclaim to “love” that get battered and bruised. I’ve been on the receiving end more times than I care to recall, and I can tell you, IT IS NO FUN!!!
Life will have ups and downs. There will be curve balls thrown in from time to time. Every one experiences this. All of us. But, if this is a constant with you, and your life is in turmoil 95% of the time, chances are that it is NOT everyone else around you … but it is YOU, dear heart. Please take a good long look at yourself in the mirror. Stop blaming this person or that person, or this job or that job, or this situation or that situation. Be honest with yourself and the person in the mirror. Look into your own eyes and admit that you – like us all – have faults, yes. But look deeper than that at what is causing the chaos you feel in your heart and soul.
Are you living right?
Do you have GOD guiding your path? Or do you lean more toward a sinful nature?
KNOW THIS – if you are doing things in darkness, they will eventually come to light. It will not stay hidden just because you think you’re so clever in how you can cover your tracks.
And ask yourself this.
IS IT REALLY WORTH IT for you to lead this kind of life?
Alcohol and drug abuse … impulsive ways of life, whether it be through spending money that you don’t have or with being sexual and taking risks that you normally would not take, realize that something is not right. Whether you call it sex addiction, or just having “fun,” it is NO FUN when your life is in a constant hurricane state with storm winds ripping the roof off of your house!
Or, let’s talk about bullying. Are you like the big bad wolf threatening to blow someone’s house down? Do you beat your fists on things, throw objects, knock holes in walls or do other destructive type things when you get angry? If that’s you – KNOW THIS – that is abuse, plain and simple! Verbal … emotional … mental … whatever you want to call it. It is ABUSIVE and in the state of South Carolina, it is DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!!! FYI – that is unlawful conduct toward those you “love.” Keep that in mind! If the police are called when you are behaving in this fashion, you could be hauled off to jail. Consider that the next time you want to throw a fit.
But it’s bigger than all of that – if you are behaving in this fashion, I would be willing to bet that a hidden mental illness is fueling it. There is something going on inside of you that you haven’t addressed yet, and you need professional help to do so.
Remember what I said earlier about NO SHAME – and I mean that. It takes a big person to realize that something is not quite right and ADDRESS that with experts in the field.
I truly applaud all those that have taken that step. Everyone that has come to this realization and stepped out, hands shaking as they called the number for a psychiatrist or counseling, I applaud you! YOU are the hero every time you walk into that doctor’s office or sit on that counselor’s padded couch to begin your therapy. It takes guts to do that!
So please, seek help! Life will be better when you do. Until then, you will be in a constant state of chaos and turmoil.
Your family deserves better! Your family deserves PEACE!