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Light in the Darkness Surrounded by Love with Hope for those in need.

Shirley

Shirley is the proud mother of two beautiful young ladies. She enjoys spending time with them on their ranch in the deep South with their three paint horses. Always looking for an adventure, she looks forward to hikes in the mountains chasing waterfalls, or scouring the coast for beautiful lighthouses! Shirley writes to encourage others and often times shares things that motivate and inspire her. She believes in living life to the fullest because no one is promised the gift of another day. Join her as we honor our bodies, minds, hearts, souls, and our Almighty Creator, God above!

14 Comments

  1. tara pittman
    June 2, 2014 @ 12:07 pm

    We need to talk and let others know how you feel. We also need to listen too.

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    • Shirley
      June 6, 2014 @ 1:12 pm

      This is very true, Tara. Listening is an important piece that a lot of people forget as they are too busy thinking up a response. The words that are spoken haven’t really been absorbed before their mouth is engaging.

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  2. Christina
    June 2, 2014 @ 2:06 pm

    I think it is a fine balance. Don’t bottle it up and, like you said, don’t hash it out over and over again. I’m a firm believer in the “Pick Your Battles” montra. Men hate drama, and coming to them with every single misunderstanding is overkill, and in my mind, drama. Thanks for the good reminders.

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    • Shirley
      June 6, 2014 @ 1:14 pm

      How true, Christina. You really do have to choose which battles are important enough to engage in, and which ones truly need to be left alone. I agree on the fine line, too. We need to talk and get it out, but if we focus on it too long, we will be consumed in negativity which will spew out in other aspects of our lives. Very good point made and taken!

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  3. Desiree Jackson
    June 2, 2014 @ 3:58 pm

    I know of a particular couple that have the same issue and they cannot communicate. They are struggling with each other to try to make the other side understand their side.

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    • Shirley
      June 6, 2014 @ 1:19 pm

      This is a really hard place to be! At one point or another in our lives, we have probably all been in a place where we felt we weren’t being heard. It hurts deeply when we feel people ignoring us as well as ignoring our wants, needs, and feel as if they are just casting us aside. Communication is a vital part of a relationship to ensure that this does not happen.

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  4. Alli
    June 2, 2014 @ 4:02 pm

    Amen!!! So many bad situations could be avoided if people would just learn to communicate and not be so stubborn!

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    • Shirley
      June 6, 2014 @ 1:20 pm

      You summed it up nicely – very true words! Straight and to the point – so many relationships could be salvaged if people would just open up and communicate. Pouring your heart out to each other is never a bad thing.

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  5. Reginia Cordell
    June 3, 2014 @ 12:28 am

    I am a talker. I love communicating to solve problems right a way. I love talking to get to know others personally and intimately. However, as much as I am a talker, I keep things bottled inside which is a really ineffective behavior.

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    • Shirley
      June 6, 2014 @ 1:22 pm

      Reginia, I have been on both sides before. When something is so fresh and raw, it hurts. It is hard to talk about something that brings so much pain with it, but it is a necessary evil to work through those feelings to get to the other side. When both parties are ready, it can be a beautiful thing to talk it out with lots of love and respect so that things can be worked on together.

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  6. Greg
    June 3, 2014 @ 9:09 am

    I have said for years that communications is the number one key to any relationship (friends, couples)
    Keeping the lines of communication open and strong is vital.
    Excellently written!

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    • Shirley
      June 6, 2014 @ 1:39 pm

      Thank you for your kind words. It is a vital part of any relationship, as you pointed out as well. It is extremely sad when couples lose the ability to communicate.

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  7. Ariel @ArielSaysNow
    June 5, 2014 @ 1:12 am

    You’re so right about this: Communication is definitely necessary in all situations. Without it, it’s hard to grow and trust from where you are. Great post.

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    • Shirley
      June 6, 2014 @ 1:07 pm

      Thank you for your kind words, Ariel. It is the life blood of any relationship.

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