Modesty Is Needed
In the world that we are living in today, there are women walking around with clothes that are barely covering their body parts. What happened to the days gone by where women dressed conservatively? I’m not suggesting that women wear turtlenecks all the time or dresses that sweep the floor. What I am suggesting is that women cover their body parts!
In this day and age more and more people are getting plastic surgery. From breast implants to even butt enhancers, the world has gone crazy for plastic surgery. If that is what you wish to do, more power to you. But, at least have the decency to cover your “private” parts.
Recently I went into my husband’s place of employment. He has only been at this place for two months, so my children and I were excited to see Daddy’s new office. He was excited for us to visit as well, and we soon began taking a tour around the two story office building. There is a separate business within the same building that handles residential type calls for heating and air, while my husband works on the commercial side. He still took us down there to introduce us to the staff. It didn’t take but a minute for my daughters to whip their heads as discretely as they could around to look at me. I knew immediately why they had this reaction. One of the “ladies” in the office was dressed in knee high boots, jeans, and a big sweater. The only thing was that this sweater had the biggest neck we’ve ever seen. It was big enough that four people could have fit through it. And can you guess WHY she was wearing such a big necked sweater? Of course … she had fake boobs that she wanted to flaunt … and when I say that this big necked sweater barely covered … I am NOT exaggerating! She left very little to the imagination! As if it wasn’t enough that she was barely covered, she’d laugh and slap her knee so her boobs were even more in our face and falling out of her big necked sweater.
We exchanged pleasantries with this “lady,” and then made our way down the hall to go into meet my husband’s co-workers. Before we did, though, my 18 year old daughter asked, “MAMA! WHY was she dressed like that?!”
There is NO sense in this whatsoever! Yes, I realize she paid for the fake boobs. Yes, I do realize that the majority of the men in the service department where she worked gathered around for the free show she was offering. THANK GOD my husband does not work in that department and is NOT one that is gathered around with his mouth gaped open while staring at what you just can’t help but see because they are right there in your face. (At least he’d better NOT be one of them!)
Imagine giant grapefruits on your chest pushed so high up in that sweater that it’s spilling out the top of it. Yes, that is what it looked like. Even my 10 year old daughter commented as such. They do not look real AT ALL … yet so many women walk around flaunting their fake boobs in their barely there tops. Men flock to them because they are visual creatures that just cannot control themselves (~notice the sarcasm~)! Men CAN if they only choose to do so!
This bothered me a great deal, especially with what came out last year in our family. The struggles men face … why? Because “sex sells.” We are told that, and the porn industry just keeps putting it out there as well as magazines with images of women with fake boobs that eagerly pose nude. We would have expected this had we walked into a strip joint or a restaurant that, unfortunately, we have in town where women walk around in tight, low cut shirts with their stomachs showing wearing tight shorts to match. It’s such a shame that there are even places like this around. Yet we did not go into an establishment such as that. We merely went into a HVAC contractor’s office … and this is what we see?
I thought about this for a few days, reviewed the employee handbook that my husband brought home a few months ago, and then I decided after reviewing their sexual harassment policy that something HAD to be said about this.
After speaking to my husband, he agreed that it needed to be addressed with the owner of the business. I said either you address it, OR I WILL, but I am not sitting back quietly while this goes on at your work place … ESPECIALLY with the struggles he has had in the past. NO WAY! We have come too far in our recovery with our marriage for THIS to happen. I won’t accept it. NOPE, NOT HAPPENING!!!!
My husband said the owner comes in early before the office staff, and he leaves to go to other jobs before the staff comes in so chances are that he didn’t know that she was dressing like this. OR, if he did, he did not realize it was this bad. I know that the other coworkers noticed, though, and it has to make them feel uncomfortable. Besides that, it just is NOT professional attire! This person works with the public and is projecting an image for the company. This is most certainly NOT the kind of image I would want any one to portray for MY company, that’s for sure!
My husband requested to speak to his boss early Monday morning. His boss was very interested to see what was troubling my husband, and so he began to tell him some of the above that I mentioned in this post. The owner seemed unaware of the situation but said he would address it immediately. He took it very seriously when my husband brought up the topic by saying that modesty is needed in the residential side! Yea, no kidding! He went on to talk about the strict sexual harassment policy that is in place there and that this is just asking for trouble, not to mention the lost production time for the service guys who are in that office getting their eyes full instead of doing their work! The owner picked up immediately where my husband left off on the legal aspect of it as well, and he assured my husband once again that it would be addressed.
Much to our surprise, when the human resource lady got to work, the owner called her in to have a discussion. Then, she went around to every department to speak with them individually about the dress code. Of course, she could not single anyone out, that is why she had to speak to the individual departments together, but the “lady” would have to be brain dead not to know that this was directed at her!
The human resource lady spent a great deal of time reviewing the dress code and making sure that everyone understood. Upon arriving to work on Tuesday, everyone had a revised dress code policy in their inboxes prohibiting low cut tops, see through tops, tank tops, spaghetti straps (unless covered by a jacket or sweater), leggings, spandex, heels 4″ or taller, etc.
Well handled, indeed.
Needless to say, I am very pleased with the way this company addressed the issue and the manner in which they did so. I feel stronger than ever about the owner’s position that he has taken with his staff and how he has zero tolerance for this type of improper dress attire and conduct at work. He has earned more respect from me and my family by the way in which this was handled. Sadly, at a place I worked for ten years, they allowed a lady with fake boobs to continue to dress inappropriately with barely-there-tops when she had to interact with the public as well. I am not sure why she was allowed to dress in this manner, and I am happy to not be working there in that type of an environment any longer.
Modesty is needed.
I am very proud of my daughters in realizing the inappropriateness in the way that this “lady” was dressed at work. If she was going to a party, maybe … although I still think she was showing a little too much skin. But this certainly was not appropriate for work, and I am glad it was addressed. I’m sure she is very proud of her fake boobs. She can admire herself in the mirror at home or dress to impress at a party … but she needs to cover herself when at work! Plain and simple.
Have you talked to your children about modesty?