It can be interesting how a person reacts to a problem. Some people will shy away and do anything to avoid it hoping it will go away. Others will hit it head on to resolve it and may just cause more issues. There seems to seldom be an in between reaction.
When I run into a problem in life, I am the kind of person that sits and listens before deciding on how to handle things. The Lounge developed into an interesting problem for me in regards to the relationships in my life.
Everyone has an opinion. As time passed in the Lounge and relationships formed, I was being given opinions by people inside and outside of the situation. As I think back, if I would have taken the advise of certain people, I would have walked away from the Lounge and my life would have been completely different. They saw what was going on in the Lounge in some aspects as a problem for me that I needed to walk away from.
My way of handling these conflicting opinions was to divide my life into sections. In each section were certain people and I never let the sections meet. You could say I lived multiple lives. It probably wasn’t the best choice, but it seemed to work. Keeping the opinions of people I cared about in separate buckets kept me from feeling awkward and kept me from being quizzed and having to explain my actions.
Now that those people are gone, I don’t have that separation to deal with anymore. Whether or not what I did was the correct way to handle it, I still don’t know. That only thing I know if that it kept me from hearing, “You need to get away from that situation”, comment over and over again.